Saturday 16 March 2013

That Mr Shem Obafaiye May Not Suffer Unjustly, He Deserves Our Pardon!

Dear Diary,
               

This time I have decided to write something different - this is about something that has been on my mind. It has to do with not matters of the heart but something that I wanted to write for some time now. So, I guess it does matter.
I want to talk about Mr Shem Obafaiye - the Lagos state commandant of the Nigeria Security and Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) who has been the butt of jokes recently by a wide section of Nigerians owing to his inability to correctly mention his organization's web address. Yes, the man goofed on Television and trust Nigerians, he has to pay.

So, here's my two cents on the entire episode... I hope it makes for a good read.
When one certain Mr Shem Obafaiye goofed on a Channels Television breakfast programme – Sunrise Daily – by confidently expressing ignorance of the web address of the organization he represents, the Nigeria Security Civil Defence Corps (NSCDC) of which he is a commandant there and made reference to ‘my oga at the top,’ a phrase which has now become an instant hit, nobody in their wildest imagination could have believed such an innocuous mistake will bring smiles to the face of many. But it did.
I had a jolly good laugh. I shared a YouTube link to the video on my girlfriend’s wall on Facebook and as intended, she quickly caught the ‘oga at the top’ bug. But that was how far I went. How far did you go? And no, this is not a judgement call but how many of us have not made an honest mistake before?
I feared for Mr Shem Obafaiye on two grounds – his psyche and his job. In other climes, assuming he is a ‘white man’ no pun intended, he would have committed suicide! There’s no two ways about it. His job already is on shaky grounds if media speculation is to be believed – that he has been suspended by his ‘oga at the top’.
Wow! Not like I am surprised but such is the power of social media – a virtual yet very powerfully effective tool if and when deployed. Little wonder the oppressors of the Nigerian people are jittery and whenever they have the opportunity never cease to call for its censorship. While I support responsible and conscious use of social media tools, I do not support its outright censorship! I digress.
While the ‘oga at the top’ joke was going round, I could not help but notice two salient points: that while Mr Shem Obafaiye was the butt of all the jokes, no one cared to know his ethnicity or religion. And when calls were made to desist from doing further damage, no one used either religion or ethnicity as an excuse. For once in a very long time, these two key ingredients which have always been our focal points in an argument or counter argument, was conspicuously missing. How did we achieve that feat?
Which brings me to a somewhat inconclusive end – it is either we are smart by half or simply foolish! Where we need to discuss the real issues devoid of religious and ethnic sentiments, that is where we display our ignorance and where it is not really required, we play intelligent. Who are we deceiving? Those who were so quick to print the ‘oga at the top’ t-shirts, make video and audio remixes of the phrase and so on thereby cashing in on the unfortunate mistakes of one man, I ask, where was your thinking cap when the National Council of States headed by President Goodluck Jonathan granted DSP Alamieyeseigha a fraudulent state pardon?
This saga once again reveals the thinking of the average Nigerian man – kill the fly with a sledge hammer but decorate the path of the poisonous snake with sweet scented flowers. It is that same attitude in us that will make a mob kill four young men in their prime over a false allegation but praise the likes of Peter Odili to high heavens for being a smart thief. It is that same spirit that will not let us constructively dissect issues of national importance from a nationalist and unbiased point of view but will allow us do same when matters of less national importance are brought up. Are we alright? If left unabated, this ‘oga at the top’ joke will last longer in national discourse than the pardon granted Alams and the everyday brazen pilfering of our commonwealth by our ogas at the top who are by the way having a field day while we concentrate all our energy on the mundane.
The same passion, zeal, forthrightness and thoughtfulness with which we attacked the ‘oga at the top’ phenomenon, can we at least translate same into our everyday lives?
The moment we realise that every mobile phone, personal computer, tablet, or device that grants us access to the internet is a very powerful tool that we can use in causing a change, positive change, that is the moment we begin to reclaim our country back from those who have made it their birth right by virtue of luck, appointment or by our own ignorance.
The moment we realise that there are bigger fishes to fry than gathering around the fingerlings just to satisfy our transient pleasures and fantasies that is the moment we begin to indicate our seriousness to challenge the status quo and keep our ogas at the top on their toes.
Now, may I seize this opportunity to join those who have called for an end to this rude joke? Enough said, because if I may recall correctly, no one, maybe with the exception of President Jonathan though, has been at the receiving end of Nigerians use of social media like Mr Shem Obafaiye. The poor man has suffered enough and deserves our collective pardon.
After all, DSP Alams, a convicted felon who still has cases pending in the UK and maybe U.S., was recently granted pardon by the state – what more could be worse? Who else could be less deserving of our forgiveness and mercy?

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Tuesday 12 March 2013

This Feeeeeeliiiiin'



Dear Diary,
                It is past midnight now but sleep eludes me; no, I’m not having troubles sleeping neither am I disturbed. I just want to stay awake and ponder on some few thoughts.


                I am just too excited to sleep not ‘coz I just won a million dollar jackpot but for the fact that I think no scratch that, I know that I’ve found the one – the girl that I want to spend the rest of my life with. How am I so sure? I don’t know myself but that feeling that you get when you know that you cannot be wrong on something, that you found it, that special something that you lay your hands on and you know it would be foolhardy to just let go. Yes, that feeling. I know it.
                I found her and I’m not about to let go – ne’er! I’ve loved once, twice and maybe even thrice and on each occasion, love dealt me a heavy blow. This time, I’ll love, I’m loving, I’ve loved and I finally get the moves – when love throws me a punch, I’ve learnt to block it by striking love back. Yes, when love fights, to survive, to become one. I’m in perfect unison with love; we found a c’mon ground.
                And dear diary, I just took a leap of faith. I don’t know what I was thinking but I just felt the timing was right; I’d to do this now. Everyone has to know who I’m in love with now – no gimmicks. A golden Fish, they say, has no hiding place. I couldn’t bear to conceal it anymore; that I’m in love and I want the whole world to take note.
                I’ll forever cherish this feeling, this moment. **yawns** now sleep beckons and once more, I get to sleep with this tingle in my heart and Banky W’s song comes to mind – would you be my lover – as much as I wanna be yours?

Sunday 24 February 2013

I Miss You...



The room gets smaller, the silence becomes even more deafening, and the space around me appears to be lacking in Oxygen. I need me some air or I might just suffocate on this empty feeling.
The air that fills me up, makes my every morning and evening a memorable one and my afternoons, unforgettable, is missing! She left me alone in this cold space and I miss her!
As I write, I pause… the beautiful image of you lying on the single couch with a novel of Danielle Steel (your favourite) in your hand and your face buried in it, plays across my mind.
The look in your eyes – indescribable, when you talk about your business; how can I ever forget that? Or is it when you are miles away from your family and you still have to put things in place for them – that feeling of pride that overwhelms me that in you, I’ve found a woman who can build and sustain a home.
I will miss the sound of your voice, the sway of your hips and yes, your behind! How can I forget the feel of your skin on mine; so hot it can set a man on fire! The morning smell of you every morning; your breath next to mine; the long time you take to apply your ‘pancake’; your very delicious meals even though you and your new found friend would eat it all and leave me with ‘little’; lol. The lovely and unforgettable moments we had in the evenings at Aero garden (now I miss having you around) or Ignobis or even Soul Lounge? Your company those evenings are most treasured my Love.
I miss everything about you Sweetie and I’m so lucky, so blessed and so grateful that I found you; we found us.
I trust you must be tired from your journey and will need to rest tonight; but bear it in mind that whatever you do, wherever you go, I’m missing you like crazy and I can’t wait to behold you again, to have you in my arms, to hold, to cherish, to whisper how much I love you and how much you mean the world to me.
You are my INDISPENSABLE LOVE!

Saturday 2 February 2013

Musings Of A Lover



What does LOVE mean to you? Yes, you! Have you e’er paused to ask yourself what those four letters mean to you or is it just what others say it is? A strong feeling of deep affection?

For me, love means a lot of things; it means TRUTH! It means no SECRETS! It means no GUESSING! It means taking your partner into CONFIDENCE! It means TRUST! It means accepting that your feelings will remain UNCHANGED no matter what happens! It means FORGIVENESS! Love means PAIN; how? You might wonder but if you’ve truly ever fallen in love, you’ll realize that it comes with heartaches, fears, uncertainty and dark moments.
Our fears that we might lose a loved one, that they may suddenly stop having that ‘Wow!’ feeling that the future is unknown and what it holds is either good or bad; all that rolled into oneand more, makes LOVE such a powerful force that the lily-livered ne’er dare venture.
If you loved her, if you loved him, you’d tell him/her everything! There’s no room for assumption in LOVE! It’s either black and white or nothing else! If you ever find yourself giving excuses for failing to tell it all as it is, then you should check yourself, check your relationship – ask yourself, do I’ve to hold back anything? Even the most tiniest detail? I’ve come to realize that nothing’s too little or too much to share with a loved one!
I say share it ALL or share it Not!
There’s no half measures in LOVE; there’s no room for had I known! And even though LOVE covereth a multitude of SINS, it’s not STUPID! Eventually, LOVE CONQUERETH only after the battle is won coz LOVE is a WARRIOR; it FIGHTS! It reminds you of the importance of avoiding WAR, of the things that lead to it!
LOVE is KIND, is PATIENT, is UNDERSTANDING, is ENCOMPASSING & above all, LOVE is GOD & GOD is LOVE but even at that, LOVE CHASTISES, it CORRECTS! It’s a double edged SWORD; don’t e’er fall on its WRONG SIDE!
Don’t e’er wrong LOVE!

A Special Dedication To The Love Of My Life...



Love is a journey; undertaken not by the faint-hearted, careful or unadventurous. It is a destination you find and from thence, begin a journey that ne’er ends. Yes, true love ne’er ends!
I found my destination in you – Omo & the journey we’ve started, although not smooth-sail (even thorns are found among Rose flowers), has been adventurous, thrilling, exciting, happy, amazing, blissful & challenging. I couldn’t ask for less my love.

I loved you unconditionally, I still do & won’t stop loving you; you’re everything my heart yearns for in a woman. You’re not perfect but recognizing your weaknesses is what makes you the perfect girl in my eyes. I’m not a perfect man too but in our weaknesses have we found the strength to overcome every obstacle that love has thrown up.
My Mondays will ne’er be the same again. My Tuesdays too. And I forget, everyday of the week will ne’er be the same again since we redefined these days; yes, we redefined the days of the week. Lovedays is what I call each day now coz you filled my days with joy, love & laughter. And you still do even though I find it hard now that we can’t create those magic moments for now coz you’ve to go attend to pressing issues.
I love the look in your eyes; the expression on your face, the smile that plays on your lips, the ears that stay attentive to listen, the nose that breathes the air of love when we kiss & the mouth that speaks words of wisdom, love, encouragement & sincerity.
I miss you my dearest sweetie & I know you’ll do just fine as I’ve resolved to do ‘ere: to remember that loving you is the greatest & priceless feeling I can ever feel!
They say LOVE is the greatest force of all & I succumb to it, to you; coz you’re LOVE!